Why Should I Cry For You?

Sting has been one of my lifetime inspirers. Sometimes I keep only one sentence from a whole lyric. I specially love this sentence: Why should I cry for you?

I could replace that 'you' by a name, a bond, even a thing: my child's father and the family I thought we could have had; the parents I would have liked to have; the friend I lost and I don't know how to recover; nature, its losses and how I lost contact with it. That 'you' can even be 'me': Why should I cry for little Patricia, her fears, her loneliness or her longings.

Crying for what is not or for what we do not have does not do the trick. We can cry for years in a row--believe me, I know what I say--for someone or something and the situation will not get any better. Feeling bad, sorry or miserable does not change a thing. Reality keeps being exactly the same and you are wasting your time, missing the opportunity to live another wonderful experience instead.

The universe of things we can shed our tears for is vast enough for me not to attempt to describe it. My PhD on useless tears has been done on relationships. My thesis took seven long years to be finished and my defense is probably still pending. What did I learn from that? Nothing I could not have learned in a couple of days!

Instead of crying, lately I smile, thank for the experiences,
accept the experiences, people, etc. and go on. I may get sad from time to time, but I do not stop and rest in that sad feeling.

Each experience is a learning opportunity. Provided you have your eyes and ears open, either you learn from the others or you learn from yourself. This is a gift to be thankful for. Tears do not fit there.